Help For Parents

Are you a parent whose son or daughter has been visiting pornographic websites or viewing some other form of pornographic material?  Perhaps you have questions regarding how to handle this issue.  You may be asking, “How do I talk to them about this?” or “What do I say?” or “How can I protect them?”

As parents, there are ways that you can protect your children and your home from the pervasiveness and destructiveness of pornography. 

Following are a few steps that you can take to start protecting your children and your home.

1. You need to step back and take a good look at your life and consider the following questions:

• Are you or your spouse looking at pornography?
• Do you have pornographic magazines or videos in your home?
• Do you or your spouse watch sexually explicit movies or TV shows?

Parents, if you want your children to adhere to a higher biblical standard you must be willing to adhere to a higher biblical standard yourself.  You must be willing to remove all pornographic material from your home.  You must stop watching movies or TV shows that contain sexually explicit scenes, innuendos or language.  If you or your spouse is looking at internet pornography you must be willing to get help.  We offer help FOR MEN and FOR WOMEN who are dealing with issues related to pornography.

2.  Talk to your children.  We offer two resources that will help you and guide you in talking with your children about this issue.  Look for “Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle” and “Preparing Your Daughter for Every Women’s Battle” on our Resource Page.  These resources will give you the courage and confidence to talk openly and honestly with your child.

3.  Take an interest in your son’s or daughter’s online activity.  Kids who are involved in inappropriate online activity will go to great lengths to hide it from you and cover their tracks.  Never underestimate your child’s ability to navigate like a pro in cyber space. 

• Do not leave your children unsupervised on a computer with internet access. 
• We recommend that you have the computer in an open area of your home. 
• Find out who your child chats with online. 
• Make sure, as a parent, that you have login passwords to your child’s MySpace or Facebook account. 
• Know the sites that your son or daughter visit. 
• View your home computers browsing history often.  Get Involved!

If you discover that your son or daughter is struggling with pornography, you as the parent need to take immediate action.  This may include talking with a professional Christian counselor or the pastor of your local church.

We strongly recommend that you install accountability software such as Covenant Eyes or Safe Eyes. This software will monitor and log all internet activity and send a report of internet activity via email and text to you the parent.  In addition, we encourage you to sign up for a confidential online workshop offered by X-3 Pure.  From this course you will learn more about the problems of sexual addiction, discover what some of the triggers are, and learn ideas for helping your child.  You may consider going through this course with your son or daughter.

Parents, don't be naive in thinking that your son or daughter can't fall victim to pornography.

If you don’t find the help that you need on our website please Contact Us. As a ministry we are committed to doing what ever it takes to protect you and your family.